Monday, August 1, 2011

Which is worse, life in prison, or death?

Hopefully that is not something I will ever have to personally know, but right now, my heart is torn. I wrote a blog here about my beautiful Krissy friend and her death. Today her murderer waived his preliminary hearing. Of course we don't know the details yet but on Friday we will have more information. The best guess is that he is changing his plea to guilty so he will get a deal that takes the death penalty off the table. The worst that can happen to him now is life in prison without the possibility of parole.

Is it enough? Why does he still get to choose when he took all of Krissy's choices away? Would death be the easy way out? Will it be more horrible for him to have to wake up every morning and remember what he did? Does a person who can commit such a horrific crime even have the human ability to be remorseful and tormented by guilt?

I've never wanted anyone dead, ever. But today I am having a really hard time convincing myself that this man should have the opportunity to live out his life behind bars.

Is there ever really any peace or closure after someone has been murdered?


  1. It's a tricky subject I suppose. I don't know if there will ever be closure if he was to die or rot in prison.

    I say torture him until he is remorseful for what he has done. Shame you can't really do that. With death he is escaping from the pain of living his wasted life in prison.

    Such a shame prisons are more "comfortable" these days.

    Hope you are ok xxx

  2. A tough one, and a really interesting post... sending warm thoughts your way!

  3. I spent twenty years as a correctional officer. I have shipped off prisoners for short terms, and a few for multiple life sentences. The county in which I lived was such that a death sentence was never sought. The probability of getting a jury from that county to vote for death was very low.

    Having heard a great many stories from inmates who have served a great many years in prison, I think a life sentence (without possibility of parole) is a fine punishment for murderers.

    It is a hard life, filled with violence, tedium, more violence and more tedium. The weak serve the strong, and that includes some rather unpleasant duties. Whatever you can imagine, it is worse than that.

    A life sentence is a fine thing for murderers. Few actually grow old in prison. Violence, disease or other causes tend to bring death to those serving long terms.

    Is there closure? I don't know. I do know that anyone who allows such animals to impact their lives too much just give them another victim.

    Remember your friend, and heal as best you can. If you can live well after what this creature has done to you, you will have the best revenge. May he live long, and suffer greatly.

  4. Although I am, at times, a proponent of the death penalty, I think Michael just made a pretty strong statement for life in prison.

    And no matter what the outcome, I don't think there is ever any closure from this type of situation.

    Many, many hugs to you. You are a good friend - and she knew that.

  5. I just read your post about Krissy and it brought tears to my eyes. When someone is that down on themselves inside, there is nothing anyone can do to stop them. She eventually would have killed herself. Our family lost a loved one to the consequences of heroin addiction. He just couldn't stop. The man who murdered her deserves to spend life in prison but without tv's, pc's, electronics. Death is too simple for someone so brutal. I'm sending you more hugs than you can count!!!!


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